Together at the Table
If you don’t share mealtime with your family, make sure you do. Envisage the scene. It is the family dining room and delightful aromas of a delicious dinner are wafting around. There is laughter, gaiety and a family looking forward to a shared meal. Isn’t it a pretty picture? Sadly this scene, quite a common fixture about a decade back, is getting rare today. TV dinners, eating out, hectic lifestyles have elbowed this feature out of the family life. The disappearance of the family meal has also rapidly lessened family conversations.
However, there are many reasons why this practice should be revived in earnest. A shared meal would enable all the members to sit together and share their day with each other. Many issues between different members could be amicably resolved over a plate of dessert. This is the time when, though small anecdotes, the kin connect and a tenacious bond is developed.
When each of us relates our day every day, one gets a hang of the pattern. You are curious about Continue reading “To grow in love…” »
turn green with envy!
Are envy and jealousy two sides of the same coin? Find out for yourself. Answer these two questions for yourself:
You discover your partner has had an affair. Do you:
– Scream at him, and tell him he is a terrible person
– Tell your friends, to relieve yourself of the pressure of the hurt
– Regularly check his phone, emails or browser history
– Put your rage into your collection of resentments
You’re single and your best friend has just met the man of her dreams. Do you:
– Listen to her enthuse, while sobbing inside
– Warn her that love can be blind
– Talk about the freedom of being single
– Say something critical of her or him
If you said “None of the above,” I’m not sure I believe you. Jealousy and Envy are painful emotions, and when we act them out, we’re trying to get some relief. Of course, none of these behaviors actually provide that relief.
We use the two words interchangeably. They are in reality two distinct emotions, each with their own spectrum of usefulness to destruction. Simply put, jealousy refers to feelings of impending loss of something you have (your partner’s love perhaps) and envy refers to the desire for something someone else has. They are both Continue reading “The Green-Eyed Monster!” »
Since when did money need ‘managing’?
If it’s that simple; how do we end up complicating things? Take the case of our money. We open bank accounts willy-nilly, and soon discover we have so many that we are confused which bank account has what. Does that sound familiar? As does the fact that we love stashing away small amounts of money here and there and big lumps of money everywhere. The relationship managers at banks are only too good at scenting these bits and soon – this might sound very familiar – there will be further bits in mutual funds, a small lump as gold, a big brown cover with bonds, another brown envelope filled with fixed deposits, recurring deposits, receipts and so on.
This is the point when it gets insane. You wake up one day and start getting reminders for premiums from your banks. Then you start getting reminders for your reminders. You can’t figure out which bit is where and you spend the next few nights trying to track all this online. You log on and discover that you have Continue reading “Is Money Ever Enough?” »