Together at the Table
If you don’t share mealtime with your family, make sure you do. Envisage the scene. It is the family dining room and delightful aromas of a delicious dinner are wafting around. There is laughter, gaiety and a family looking forward to a shared meal. Isn’t it a pretty picture? Sadly this scene, quite a common fixture about a decade back, is getting rare today. TV dinners, eating out, hectic lifestyles have elbowed this feature out of the family life. The disappearance of the family meal has also rapidly lessened family conversations.
However, there are many reasons why this practice should be revived in earnest. A shared meal would enable all the members to sit together and share their day with each other. Many issues between different members could be amicably resolved over a plate of dessert. This is the time when, though small anecdotes, the kin connect and a tenacious bond is developed.
When each of us relates our day every day, one gets a hang of the pattern. You are curious about Continue reading “To grow in love…” »
turn green with envy!
Are envy and jealousy two sides of the same coin? Find out for yourself. Answer these two questions for yourself:
You discover your partner has had an affair. Do you:
– Scream at him, and tell him he is a terrible person
– Tell your friends, to relieve yourself of the pressure of the hurt
– Regularly check his phone, emails or browser history
– Put your rage into your collection of resentments
You’re single and your best friend has just met the man of her dreams. Do you:
– Listen to her enthuse, while sobbing inside
– Warn her that love can be blind
– Talk about the freedom of being single
– Say something critical of her or him
If you said “None of the above,” I’m not sure I believe you. Jealousy and Envy are painful emotions, and when we act them out, we’re trying to get some relief. Of course, none of these behaviors actually provide that relief.
We use the two words interchangeably. They are in reality two distinct emotions, each with their own spectrum of usefulness to destruction. Simply put, jealousy refers to feelings of impending loss of something you have (your partner’s love perhaps) and envy refers to the desire for something someone else has. They are both Continue reading “The Green-Eyed Monster!” »
Awaken your inner spirit!
When we feel high. we have no problems. The problem comes when we feel low. No one wants to feel low. When one feels low, then the more one tries to feel high, the more the low feelings persist. This seems to be the biggest problem. What is important about the feelings? They never stay the same. Feelings are fluid. See, you feel good now, later you don’t feel good. Then again you feel good. This continues in life. If we base our life on our feelings, we will be ruined. You feel good about something now and a little later you feel bad about the same thing. Then those feelings change yet again. Have you noticed feelings changing?
Many people are unaware of the nature of feelings. Everywhere you will hear people say, “Follow your feeling, go by your feelings, do what you feel like,” etc. What will you do? Be independent? People misinterpret what independence means. They think it means following your feelings. They think, “I do as I feel now, I do as I feel tomorrow, I do as I feel the next day.” Then there can be no stability in life.
We are unhappy if we follow our feelings. When you feel low, jump into the lowest. Be like water. That is your real nature; inside you, it is like water. The coconut is the symbol of the whole human life. The coconut has a husk. That is the environment. And then the shell is the body. The mind and the inner intellect is the white membrane inside. The water is the innermost part. Your true nature is like water, fluid and Continue reading “Dealing with Feelings….” »